8 Reasons Why Dating In 2017 Can Really Suck

This post has been in my drafts for SUCH a long time! I think relationship/dating advice has always been one of the things my friends and my readers (you guys) have asked me to write about, but I haven't really been fully comfortable sharing my ideas and thoughts about this topic to the world... until now. While talking to some of my friends, I always end up getting so puzzled at their dating lives and the advice I offer them is usually something that they end up thanking me for or appreciating. After talking to a blogger friend this past week, we both realized that relationship/dating advice is something I have a very unique mindset on and something I should be sharing with my readers. The only reason I haven't talked about this topic very much is because I don't like to talk about anything that everyone in the world might not agree with and because I like to keep my personal life kind of personal. However, I decided to step out of my bubble and finally publish this post! It's really about time!

Any who! Let's talk about the 8 Reasons Why Dating In 2017 Can Really Suck:

  1. Online dating is the new norm. The other day I was at a house party at a friends house and 6 out of the 7 people in our group had met the person they were currently talking to on an online dating site or app. I have 2 major problems with this (among the many). We live in a world of swipes - this leads us to always think there are so many other fish in the sea. Instead of people working on the problems in their relationship, it has become more and more common to give up and start all over. And also, it has become SO easy for people to cheat or talk to multiple people at once. 
  2. Online dating is EXHAUSTING. No joke. Anyone that has been on a dating app can tell you that swiping, matching, chatting, and exchanging numbers gets draining so fast. There's also so many people out there, so many messages to go through, and so much planning involved. Also, sometimes there's so much time spent on a person that wasn't clear about their expectations or just someone fishy that seemed normal only in the beginning. Let's not even talk about how many times you'll be making plans with complete strangers and chickening out or having them bail at the last minute. It's all exhausting and leads to my next point...
  3. We date so much it messes us up mentally and emotionally. Each person that you invest feelings (especially emotional feelings) into will change you. Even if it is in the smallest of ways, that person with teach you something valuable (usually about yourself or what you want from a partner or relationship). If all of us have been hurt even just a little bit, we carry a little bit of resentment or emotional baggage or caution into our next relationships. 
  4. Behavioral standards for what we'll accept are at an all time low.  My friends will gush over the smallest things that boys do for them. For example, texting to see how you are when you're sick or asking to walk you home. These are common etiquette that someone who is interested in you or you are seeing should be doing anyways. This isn't something that should put a specific person over everyone else. Do you remember what Noah did in the Notebook for the girl he loved or what Jack did for Rose? If a boy offers you his jacket when you're cold, that's what he's supposed to do not something that should be seen as AMAZING. Also, netflix and chill should just really not be the highest standard for a date. 
  5. Unreal physical expectations are at an all time high. Between the 3-5 different apps everyone uses on their profile pictures and how much retouching is provided by mainstream media, it's really hard not to raise your standards and desire someone that's picture perfect. You miss out on so many great people judging them just based on their Instagram selfies.
  6. No one wants to show emotions or let down their guard anymore. People are so scared of actually letting someone know they like them or exposing their feelings or being vulnerable. We live in a world with the mindset of "I want you to want me" instead of "I want you". This leads to so many mind games being set into play. It also leads to neither person in the relationship wanting to admit they care more than the other person. Being heartless will never be the new black. 
  7. It's so normal to want to date only for fun. I think dating should be fun because getting to know someone you're interested in and find attractive is fun. However, dating with the mindset of only trying having fun without many important topics being discussed leads to different expectations and conclusions coming forth after the honeymoon phase finally wears off. Personally, I think this leads to being immature and a lot of distrust and petty problems rising in the relationship. I also think one person in the relationship usually wants or can see a future while the other person is just trying to have fun and be simply entertained. 
  8. Hook-up culture is everywhere. It's become more and more common for one night stands and flings to be a thing. Physical intimacy isn't seen as big of a deal as it used to be. It devalues the deep connection and attachment being physical with someone can bring.

Okay that's all for today! I feel like this post was an explanation with most of my frustrations of what it's like for someone in their 20's to date in 2017 and why it can be such a struggle! I'm excited for next week (or maybe sooner ;) ) when I share with you: 8 Ways To Avoid The Dating Struggles Of Today!

Shirt: Zara Blouses

Aani xxoo


  1. A) your outfit is on point as usual.
    B) You really have the best dating advise ever. Thanks for sharing this post and I am speaking from experience when I say people should come to you for dating advice.

  2. Gone are days where we expect true love from both side, but now things changed and in near future the Dating of meaning also changed. What I think is where we are we are in the 21st century and sometime I think we are living nomadic life with no fruits only whatever we do we are right but that's not true.
    I also think what about our future generation? Where is the True love that we always read in stories? In my opinion Dating becomes only a Passion to have as you know what i want to say.

  3. Wow you're awesome

  4. I share your opinion entirely, but some people turn the searching of something exactly similar with true love into a kind of sports, which isn't acceptable for me at all. Therefore, before using video chat online browse this page I read reviews, consulted with my best friend and just evaluated the attitude to these or those dating sites.
    In fact, my first conversation turned out to be even better than I expected) Well, in truth, I haven't yet met the girl of my dreams, but I was able to get two awesome friends with the same sense of humor as me.

    Agree, this isn't so bad actually)

  5. If neither party is having a good time, it's acceptable to end the date early and just agree that you weren't compatible but don't be too quick to give up on the date. http://www.adult-online-ads.net